There are many times, when we as humans stop believing in our selves! As those of you who know me, know about me, I am not easily discouraged. I am not easily swayed from my task at hand. I persevere, even against steep odds at times. It is this sense of resiliency that has helped me to do some of the things that I have done in my life.
However, I do get knocked down. I have noticed over the last few months that I tend to react less intensely, or feel as deeply impacted, when I do get knocked down or around. It doesn’t seem to hit me as hard as it has in the past. In the past, when I would get knocked down in my process, the impact would be felt in a very physical sense. Which kind of applies to my life experiences with getting knocked down also. In the past, I would get knocked down by someone, either by their words or their actions. I would literally feel like the wind had been knocked out of me, especially if I hadn’t seen it coming.
It would take me some time to pick myself up, dust myself off and feel like myself again. However, I would feel a bit timid about trusting myself, about going the same path, about whether I should listen to what others told me on my way to hitting the ground, rather than the truth that I knew was within my own heart.
Learning to trust my heart, learning to give it a voice through writing, and learning to be resilient, to get back up, right away, and dust off and go on. Growing up, my father would always say “there is no such word as can’t”. He never let me get away with the litany of excuses we would create and would instead tell us we could do anything! My reaction to hearing that in the early years was frustration because it often referred to chores or some task I didn’t really want to do, but now could not get out of.
As I got older, I started hearing “I can’t” come out of my mouth when faced with a difficult math problem or uncomfortable situation. Then hearing “there is not such word as can’t” took on a different meaning. It forced me out of my comfort zone, to work through problems and find solutions around obstacles. Still, at a young age I did not like hearing those words!
Fast forward to today and I realize just how much of an impact those words have had on my life. They helped me grow and challenge myself to learn new skills, push through some very difficult times and have served as a foundation of the growth of my business.
What if you shifted your thoughts and words from “I can’t” to “I can” – if you hear “I can” often enough, you will begin to believe it! So stand up for your self, believe in your self and have faith, because if I can do it, so can you and there is no such thing as cant, wont or giving up… but there is such a thing that says, I can, I will and I should … cause if there’s anything in the world, I believe, and I believe in me!
I wish you can believe in your self too …
Mostly Inspired from the speech made by Barack Obama using this phrase, see 2004 Democratic National Convention keynote address. Also mentioned in his book “The Audacity of Hope” published in 2006 when Barack Obama was Senator not President.
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